Embrace the Power of Change!

I Choose To…Say “I Do” Again

Ron — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 16:24:51 +0000

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I just want to take a quick moment and thank you for your wonderful emails. This time of year is so wonderful and so stressful at the same time! Your reliable flow of quotes and reminders really help me to remember what truly matters! – Mary

Greetings!

Imagine if you had to renew you marriage license every year. An annual review of whether or not the relationship should continue. No automatic renewal through the mail — a real appearance, just like you did when you got that piece of paper the first time. With all the intension, hope, love, and anticipation of the future.

It’s all wrapped up in a piece of paper. Think about it. As time has passed — does that piece of paper look the same? Is it as bright as it was a year before? Does the ink appear fresh? Is it in the same place that you filed it last year?

Imagine that once a year you had to take that paper out. You would know where it is, you would take care not to lose it, and it would be in good shape.

Or would that piece of paper become lost in the shuffle. Misfiled. Worn at the edges. Smudged. Is it more likely that the license would expire because it would not be worth the effort to find it?

Just think about this — it costs very little to get a marriage license. It costs a great deal to get that licensed “revoked” through divorce. Why? Because for all those years that we didn’t renew, we accumulated such “penalties and interest” like stress, disappointment, anger, resentment, regret… All the things that we tend to do when we are not happy but don’t want to face the truth. All because we didn’t HAVE to take the time to choose to keep our “license” up to date. We just let it unconsciously expire.

Nothing in life should be taken for granted. A good relationship, marriage or otherwise, should always be right at your fingertips. It takes awareness to keep it where it should be. It takes awareness to know when it’s not. So, whether you are thinking about matrimony, or employment, or friendship or any other type, make sure you renew your license today!

Best Regards — Ron Email Me

Join me tonight on www.BlogTalkRadio.com/RonVillano as I talk marriage license renewal and other hot topics with acclaimed divorce attorney Tom Campagna.

Radio Show TONIGHT!

Ron — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 16:23:30 +0000

Do you want to renew, suspend or revoke your marriage license? Join Ron tonight as he talks about this hot topic with one of Long Island’s top matrimonial attorneys — Tom Campagna. Everything you talk about relates to change! It’s all around, it’s happening right now and YOU are in the thick of it! Lively — informative — fun — captivating! Come listen and catch the next new psych sensation!!

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Who Moved My Cheese?

Ron — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 01:35:43 +0000

“Move with the Cheese and enjoy it.” — Who Moved My Cheese, pg. 76

In Your Words… I just want to take a quick moment and thank you for your wonderful emails. This time of year is so wonderful and so stressful at the same time! Your reliable flow of quotes and reminders really help me to remember what truly matters! — Mary

Greetings! My son-in-law, Brian, is facing his third back surgery today. It has been a tremendously long and difficult road but Brian is right there with it. This is no easy task — especially since the expectation for the last two times did not come through. But in and among all the shifting and changing, Brian has been keeping an eye on his Cheese and THAT is what is going to get him through today. And then tomorrow, and the next… Dr. Spencer Johnson’s award winning book boils Change down to a simple picture. Take what you feel you have lost and picture it as a piece of cheese. Relationships, jobs, things, peace, happiness, health. These are all examples of what can shift around if you are not keeping your eye on it. Who Moved My Cheese is all about not taking things for granted. Nothing is permanent. When you start to believe that something cannot change, you are starting to head down the wrong path. Take a moment to think about it — what things, what circumstances, what ideas do you have in your life that you feel absolutely and positively will not change. Now ask yourself — are you absolutely sure? True self-awareness begins by taking a step back from the everyday things before the everyday things push back on their own. Knowing that it can all change in one moment is the key to keeping your eye on the Cheese in your life.

Best Regards — Ron

PS — Still working on the answer for that question? Join me at Borders — Stony Brook on Friday and bring your question along. Find out if someone has moved your Cheese before it too late. Talk & Discussion Woman In Transition Network October 13 at 6:30 Country Kitchen Restaurant 77 Route 111 (next to Uncle Giuseppe’s) Smithtown “Change — The Other Thing You Can Count On” How do we change and adapt to meet the new challenges we face? How do we keep our values and priorities in a world that is constantly changing? How do we meet the needs of our family and career while we are feeling stressed, overwhelmed and under appreciated? Change happens 24/7 and we are always right in the middle of it all. Need some tips and tools on how to de-stress and shift priorities without feeling guilt? Join Ron as he talks with this dynamic and inspiring woman’s group about keeping the balance and harmony between family and career. Light supper with soft drinks. Open to all. Reservation and fee required. Please visit www.performancesolutions.biz to register.

BOOK CLUB GROUP Friday October 16 7pm “Who Moved My Cheese” 2130 Nesconset Hwy; Stony Brook, NY 11790 So often in our lives, we wind up looking around wondering where things have gone when we should really get up and make the choice to see what is beyond the next bend in our journey. Join Ron at Borders to find out where your Cheese has moved to and how you can get it back in your life!

FREE Seat reservation suggested. Click here to register or call (631) 848-1216.

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I’ll Tell You Why…

Ron — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 13:20:41 +0000

In Your Words…

It has been almost a year since I heard you speak at Borders. I left the store feeling like I didn’t get anything out of it. A few days ago, I ran into an old friend who asked me what I’d been doing over the past few months. I told her that I’d been going through some stuff, but have been doing a good job at cleaning out my Garage. So I guess I got more from you than I had imagined. It’s never too late to say thanks! – Liz

Greetings!

Everything in life is about relationships. Your relationships with people. Your relationships with things. Business, personal, family, friend. Relationships, and the ‘why’s behind them, are the reasons that Change is often times so hard to accomplish.

Take for example someone who faces weight issues. Once you get all the tips and tools you need as far as the food is concerned shouldn’t it be easy to get to the weight you want? LOL — yes, it should. But that is not the case for most people. It’s about the relationship with food. The why behind the way you eat.

Another example is a working at a job that you no longer like, or one that had reached a dead end. You know that it’s not working — but you have great co-workers, you have a lot of history, you know what to expect… all these reasons are about the relationships surrounding the job, not the job itself. It’s about the why you still have this job.

With all the stop-smoking medical products out there to help your body, why do people have trouble quitting? Because habits like this are surrounded with triggers — morning routines, social surroundings, dealing with emotional issues. They are surrounded with how it interacts with living. It’s all about the why you continue an unhealthy habit.

“I Choose To…” is a powerful tool for living because it makes you become aware of all the why’s you’ve got going. “I Choose To…” do something different can only be made in the moment. Making a new choice changes the why, and therefore, begins to change the relationship.

One step — one moment– at a time. Add all these little moments together and what do you get? Success.

Best Regards — Ron Email Me

BOOK CLUB GROUP

Friday October 16 7pm “Who Moved My Cheese”

2130 Nesconset Hwy; Stony Brook, NY 11790

So often in our lives, we wind up looking around wondering where things have gone when we should really get up and make the choice to see what is beyond the next bend in our journey. Join Ron at Borders to find out where your Cheese has moved to and how you can get it back in your life!

FREE Seat reservation suggested. Click here to register or call (631) 848-1216.

More Ron Villano Events!

The Ron Villano Radio Show

Monday Nights — 7pm

www.BlogTalkRadio.com/RonVillano

Join Ron for a wide range of hot topics — health, financial management, family dynamics, dating and the single scene — everything you talk about relates to change! It’s all around, it’s happening right now and YOU are in the thick of it! Lively — informative — fun — captivating! Come listen and catch the next new psych sensation!!

See you MONDAY night!!

Illuminate YOUR Light Bulb!

Ron — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 23:37:21 +0000

Greetings!

Recently I was in a meeting discussing some big ideas and a great new direction for a client. We had great conversation and at the end, he told me that he was very excited about his future and he thanked me for my time and efforts. Both of us were right there, in the moment, making plans and exchanging ideas.

As he was seeing me to the door, we were talking about some casual things. A little bit of this and that. A quick exchange of thoughts and ideas. The kind of the wandering talk you have seemingly without purpose…

…until it hits you later and stops you in your tracks.

It’s like the switch went on and you see something unexpected. That moment of “ah-ha!!” where you find the buried treasure among the ordinary. A moment of discovery. It is the moment where you know you are standing at the Crossroad looking at a new direction.

It is in this powerful moment of awareness that your Light Bulb brightens.

Take a break from all the goings on and let your mind wander and become ‘aware’ of your surroundings. Shine some light on the ordinary today — there’s a new direction waiting to be found.

Best Regards — Ron

A Free Light Bulb at Borders Tonight!

Ron — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 23:36:01 +0000

Join Ron at Borders in Stony Brook NOW for his riveting talk about the Zing. Get the Zing back in your life!

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BOOK CLUB GROUP IS BACK!!!

Ron — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 15:35:11 +0000

This Friday, Sept. 25th at 7pm Borders Books — Stony Brook

Calling all Dumpsters, Batteries and Light Bulbs! Have YOU Got The Zing? Don’t miss out on this great opportunity to get answers to your questions about Ron’s sell out book. FREE!!!

Click here to Register. Hope to see you there. Bring a Friend and spread The Zing!

The Ron Villano Radio Show Monday Nights — 7pm www.BlogTalkRadio.com/RonVillano

Yes he just got back — but next week he’ll be away.

Back on the air September 28

Click Here to listen to Ron’s most often played archieved episode about the day he lost his 17-year old Son, Michael. A must listen to episode for anyone facing loss and tragedy in their lives. See you next week!!

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Set your recorders for Ron’s newest story! How many people out there are struggling with ‘wait’ loss? Watch Ron on Verizon FiOS as he works with members of T.O.P.S. — a national weight loss support group. Their stories are YOUR stories — join in and follow along. Episode premiers Monday, September 28th at 10am channel 1/501.

“I’ve Got Nothing. Do You?”

Ron — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 20:48:37 +0000

In Your Words…

I first met you at your Bohemia office for a Book Club Group discussion on “The Four Agreements.” I truly remember having some lively discussions…a wonderful experience for me. I picked up your flyer at Borders Books and the rest is history! The right thing at the right time. I was meant to be there and have a Ron Villano experience. You have made a difference. — Sophia

Greetings!

Yesterday I did nothing. I mean nothing related to work, or taking care of my things, or running errands… I sat by the pool with family and friends. That was it. Done.

Now the funny thing is that I have been talking about doing exactly this for a few weeks now. But, as what happens to so many people, things come up. And that’s OK — just as long as the things that need to be done come into balance with the doing of no-thing.

As I was enjoying the day, there came a moment when I realized that the balance had somehow gotten out of whack. Just like I plan my day, plan my appointments and plan my errands and things to-do list, I should be planning a time to do the no-things.

This is more than just a time for the body to recharge. It is the time for your mind to take a moment to pause and check out all the things you’ve got going on around you. You might be surprised to find some additional baggage that has snuck on board your journey when you were too busy.

So, what’s on your no-thing to-do list?

Best Regards — Ron

Upcoming Events

Weds. Sept. 30 7pm “Live, laugh, love and CHOOSE a healthy life”
Physical Therapy & Beyond
196 Belle Mead Road
Suite #4
East Setauket

Time for a Change? Know that you want to but just can’t seem to settle in to the routine? Join us for a night of life-changing answers! Ron will help you understand what is holding you back from reaching your fitness goals. His lively, informative and powerful events are the talk of the town! Successful-Simple-Powerful. It’s exactly what you are looking for!

FREE Seat reservation suggested. Please call (631) 941-3535 or email debraPTBeyond@optonline.net to register.

Tuesday Sept. 29 7pm Talk: “I Choose To…lose “wait” today!”
T.O.P.S. Meeting
Sayville Congregational Church
131 Middle Rd., Sayville, NY 11782

Struggling with “wait” loss? Get the scale moving down again by getting new tips and tools to discover the reasons WHY you eat. Ron joins T.O.P.S. — Take Off Pounds Sensibly — a national weight loss organization to talk about how to make that critical choice in a critical moment.

FREE meeting. For more information about TOPS call Jan DeRobertis at (631) 848-3607 or jdcom7@aol.com

Watch Ron and the members for T.O.P.S. on Verizon FiOS1 show “Push Pause” as we follow their weight loss stories.

More Ron Villano Events!

The Ron Villano Radio Show
Monday Nights — 7pm

www.BlogTalkRadio.com/RonVillano

Yes he just got back — but next week he’ll be away.
Back on the air September 28

Brown MicrophoneClick Here to listen to Ron’s most often played archieved episode about the day he lost his 17-year old Son, Michael. A must listen to episode for anyone facing loss and tragedy in their lives.

See you in two weeks!!

A Hot Friday Vacation Tip!

Ron — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 22:20:27 +0000

Greetings!

Vacation time — ’tis the season? Why? It should be vacation time every chance you get.

Name one thing that you want to do when you go on vacation — let’s say “pack a lunch and spend the day on the beach.” If you live right here on Long Islandjust pick a beach — one that you haven’t gone to; one that you may even have to pay a little bit because you aren’t a resident. Pack it up and go. You have accomplished what you would have if on vacation, say, in Cape Cod — go to a new beach.

Got a taste for service? Do you enjoy a nice hotel with amenities; someone to make the bed; maybe a night club right on site? We’ve got them here too — when is the last time you thought about booking a night in a Long Island hotel just for fun? And just think — it won’t take HOURS to get off Long Island….

Want to get away and not spend a whole lot of cash? Mark ‘vacation day’ on your calendar and set out and see some of the local sights that you always say, “I should really go there…” Just like traveling to a special destination to see the attractions. Just think — millions of people travel right here to see our sites, right? Plus… you don’t have the expense of the hotel, extra miles, and maybe even… ugh, tolls!

Vacation time doesn’t mean that you have to leave home. It is all about enjoying time away from the daily routine. Change the way you look at celebrating these fun moments — and take the stress out of “getting away from it all.”

Best regards, always - Ron

Friday So What?- Are YOU poison?

Ron — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 20:47:59 +0000

“It is far more difficult to leave unsaid the wrong thing at a tempting moment.” - Benjamin Franklin

Greetings!

“I realized that I wasn’t living the life I had to the fullest or with the right manner of thinking.” — The Zing, pg. 19

Words are more powerful than fists. Sure, the punch hurts a lot in the moment, but then it’s over. Hurtful words become clutter in your mind’s Garage. One of my favorite books, The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz, talks about how to only speak with good intention because anything else is “word poison.”

Stop accepting “word poison” from others by stopping the hurtful flow of a bad conversation. Avoid new clutter in your Garage by having a So What moment.

“In my opinion…” – So What!
“You have no idea…” – So What!
“I wouldn’t have done it that way…” – So What!

Things are never what they appear to be — what seems like a casual conversation to one may actually evoke an emotional response. Give them the benefit of the doubt when simple talk takes a turn. Keep your power, change the mood, and enjoy a “clutter-free” moment.

Best Regards, as always, Ron